Times are never that hard

In the past I've made blog posts of the comments I've made on my favorite message board. The last one I posted was in July, about a professional woman whose ex-con boyfriend murdered her. I was very sympathetic to the victim because I knew this guy wasn't her first choice, and that perhaps, she had inadvertently made it very difficult for herself to find a mate because she 1) she desired a mate of the same race; 2) was over 30; 3) didn't look like a model; 4) had a college degree or two; and 5) had a good career and, more than likely owned her own home. While initially, these traits scream "ideal woman," for so many women (myself included) they can render you damaged goods because you aren't damaged goods.

As you can see, when I'm passionate about something I tend to go on and on. So back to the point of this post. I decided to make another post to show that while I'm very sympathetic to some women who, because of societal circumstance, decide to date down and settle, I also become quite enraged at others who settle for seemingly no good reason at all. Of course, I realize that I'm bias, and that I don't know these people I make assumptions about. Honestly, I just get a vibe about what's going on.

The reply below came from a thread about a woman who decided to live with a man she'd known less than six months (I don't know whether she moved in with him, or he with her, but I assume the latter because this is a typical female thing to do). Anyway, this woman didn't know where her live-in worked. That's right. He has not told her. Yet she continues to live under the same roof and live each day in ignorant bliss as though she isn't a straight up and down fool. Here's what I had to say:


This is so ridiculous that I'm angered. They actually moved in together and she doesn't know where he works. Does she call him at work? Nothing in her is curious enough about this man she sleeps with and has opened her life up to insist he tell her where his money comes from? I want to say mean things about her and her upbringing because I'm so mad. This is so foolish.

The only thing that would make this acceptable is if he has told her and it's so classified and dangerous that she can't tell anyone else. But then again, she'd just say I can't talk about it. This woman actually doesn't know. I can't believe that men complain they can't find a woman. Look at all these stupid foolish women walking around that will accept anything, anything at all and actually love you for it. I see why it's so hard for men to not take advantage of the stupidity that persists in women.
So yes, while I'm often sympathetic to the plight of women in this cruel dating world, there are others who make me deeply ashamed that other men may look at me and assume that I too am an absent-minded, desperate idiot like the hoards of others who look like me. *sigh* Unfortunately, proving them wrong has been to my detriment. For I stand among only a few women who look like me who stubbornly cling to the belief that accepting BS is a job best suited for the plains on which said bull roams.


Signing off,

Jennifer Singleton