A while back, I posted my response to a thread on my favorite messageboard. The thread was about a woman who met a tragic end due to domestic violence. I was moved by my own words and wanted to share them. And so, I'm sharing again. The reply below is to a thread that asked how to tell the difference between the actions of a guy who was interested in you versus the actions of a guy who was simply flirting. I'm no expert on relationships (as you may have surmised by now), but I think I have some good insight into many aspects of them.
"I think you can tell a lot by: 1) his gaze and 2) how much time he spends with you. The most obvious one is the time spent. If he doesn't make it a habit to be in anyone's face a lot but yours, there's a chance that it might be legitimate interest. Contrast that with the flirty guy who makes the rounds trying to keep all the ladies smiling and is always seen with a different one. Next up is the intensity of the gaze. If he's the office flirt, his eye contact won't be that serious or attentive, his attention span will be short as he's looking all around to see who he should talk to next. But the guy who's interested holds your gaze and you feel warm, there's something he's saying without even speaking. People can pass by and he won't even look to see who it is. You just know the difference.
Men are very difficult to figure out. Good luck."
So, do you think I got it right?
Good observations. I think you have penned some excellent points to watch, but never forget that humans share the same eye intensity as the creatures that walk on all fours, and creatures that fly- when it comes to mate selection.
ReplyDeleteThe only difference being we as humans can train our eyes to deceive.
To answer your question “So, do you think I got it right?”
Yes, I think you hit it.